LEARNING TO GET MAD

I grew up trying to be nice all the time. I grew up trying to please everyone. I grew up trying to avoid trouble most of the time. It was an ideal way of life. Or so I thought. I was into a belief that peace of mind and self contentment can be attained by having self control and poised all the time. Then came the bullies.

Bullies are self-centered, self-absorbed and self-righteous people who love to see people being timid and submissive. They believe they are always right all the time. They love to call people names. They love to insult and redicule anybody. They are ready to throw bad words or even punches for any show of resistance from their victims.

Bullies think they are leaders. Bullies think they are intelligent. Bullies think they are brave. Until someone stands and challenge them into submission, they remain bullies. But when bullies finds thier perfect match, they ran with thier tails between their legs and cry foul. I've had my share of dealing with bullies. I couldn't count them with my fingers. One thing is for sure, bullies as sore losers.

Learning to get mad and learning to fight back is a necessity in life. At some point in our lives, we need to face the problem and grab the bull by its horn. Getting hurt yourself is part of the equation. Winning against a bully is very hard. But winning the fight is not the objective,. Hurting back the bully is the purpose. Its enough that you fight back and give the bully his share of pain. The bully may win the fight against you. But after you fight back, they will have second thoughts of bullying you again.

Imagine a small cat who fights back to any aggressor. Anyone who taste its bite and claws easilly learns that bullying is not a good idea. When you fight back, you get your enemy's respect.

In any life form, self defense is essensial. For humans, getting angry or getting mad is essential. Its a form of self defense. Its a way of expressing to the agressor that you are not comfortable with whatever they are doing against you. Its a way of telling the agressor that you are ready to return the favor of giving them discomfort if they dont stop. Most of the time, showing your anger or fighting back is the best solution to stop the aggression against you.

Get mad. Fight back. Show your anger. Show your fangs every once in a while. And the aggressor and bullies will leave you alone. No person in his right mind will kick an ant hill. Ants are small. But they fight will all thier heart, strength and mind. Getting the respect of the enemy or the bully is liberating and soothing to aches and pains you've been through.

In my picture below, I may look mad, but I'm not. I was just busy concentrating trying look handsome. Then the photographer appears to look mad because I looked mad. So I asked her "Are you mad?" She said. "I'm not mad. It's you that looks mad!"

I paused and realized its not a good idea to get mad and fight back with the photographer. Or she will get mad and get you ugly pictures. So I just shut my mouth and continue trying to look handsome.

When the picture was taken, oh la la! Lo and behold! I still look MAD!

Well, at least no one will bully me with this profile picture. No one wants to mess with a man who look MAD!